i *do* hang out with actual teenagers and feel weird / uncomfortable about it. hm. i probably shouldn’t (feel weird / uncomfortable). idk.
I’m actually super in favour of people hanging out with people who are not close to them in age, as long as everyone recognises the weird power shit involved. like, I wouldn’t date my supervisor or my doctor or one of my parents’ friends, I’m not gonna date a seventeen-year-old, or even put the same emotional demands on them that I would on a friend who was my age. (I’m older than you, though.) I mean cross-generational anything is fucking fraught even when everybody is an adult. but I think this modern Western youth culture thing of everybody hanging out only with people within two years or so of them in age is super weird and responsible for a lot of warped perspectives, lack of compassion for people who are at different stages in their lives, etc. this is one reason why I want to have a good relationship with my extended family and eventually want to have children or help raise someone else’s kids.
this post makes me feel awesome for how many actual teenagers i’m internet friends with (as opposed to creepy for how many actual teenagers i’m internet friends with)
i really believe for a lot of people in their early 20s, this part of early adulthood is about representing the kind of life/aesthetic they wanted to live as teenagers. ie: without parents, more hold on the life-drama; trying to be an ideal self..
totally, and this is something I wish people were more able to separate out: healing and rebuilding yourself and getting stronger and becoming the person you want to be vs advocating for people who are currently in the situation you were in.